The other day I was in a resident’s room getting ready to administer a nebulizer treatment. Her TV was turned to the Game Show Channel with “Family Feud” going on. My fellow care givers can attest “Family Feud” is a staple in the LTC environment with Turner Classic Movies a close second. You can’t walk down a hall without hearing at least 3 different versions of “Family Feud” blaring out of multiple residents’ rooms.
It was the beginning of the show where the host, Steve Harvey, has each of the family members introduce themselves before they provide an answer to the question he is asking. I wasn’t paying much attention to the show as I am busy getting the treatment ready and assessing my resident’s shortness of breath. I am vaguely aware of Steve Harvey talking to the first three family members. I didn’t hear their names, what they did or the answers to the question. The fourth family member made me stop and look at the TV screen. I half heard Steve Harvey ask her, “What do you do for a living?” It is difficult to explain the fullness of what happened next.
She said, “I am a CNA at a long term care facility.” It wasn’t the words she spoke as much as her tone of voice that made me whip my head around to look at her. I see and hear so many CNAs when asked what their occupation is a sort of apology tends to follow. “I’m a CNA but I plan on (insert a perceived better career choice here)…” or “I work as a CNA while I figure out what I want to do.” The body language that accompanies those statements relays uncertainty, self-consciousness, and/or humility.
This woman on that game show was different. Those brief seconds she was on the TV screen showed a confident woman who was proud of her career choice, proud to be a CNA. Everything about her body language supported the self-assured tone of voice in which she spoke those words. “I am a CNA at a long term care facility.” End of sentence. The words “courageous”, “bold”, “empowering”, and “confident” all ran through my brain in those few precious seconds. She offered no apologies or explanations. She stood tall, looked Mr. Harvey in the eye and declared her right to be proud of herself, of her career and those in her care. I am proud of her, too.
CNAs, be proud of your career choice. Do not ever, not even once, apologize in any way for working as a CNA. Stop feeling like you have to rationalize being a CNA with sentences like “I’m a CNA but…” You don’t have to do that. Part of changing the LTC environment and other health care settings involves how we speak about ourselves and each other. Talk about your job with pride, with confidence. What CNAs do is challenging, emotionally rewarding and taxing, sometimes all in the same day. Not everyone can do the work. It takes a special kind of talent and perseverance to be a CNA for 2 years, 5 years, 15 years. The more each of you declare with confidence and pride in your voice, “I am a CNA” the more empowered you will become. The more empowered you are, the more others will want to hear what you have to say. Be bold; declare with confidence your career choice just like that wonderful woman on a popular game show did. Be confident in yourself. Be proud to be a CNA. I am proud of you, too.